Wednesday, September 24, 2008

In Her Majesty’s Service

Durga Puja is an occasion when the familiar sound of dhaak, dhunuchi nachh and the mild fragrance of shiuli, gives a familiar tug at every Bengali heart. But that's not all about it. The four-day festival brings the unique opportunity to reconnect with friends who congregate every year without fail and always seem to take off from where they left off in the previous year.

These are the friends who didn't go to school with you, were not your neighbours, were not the guys in the park where you played and definitely not the ones who you emailed or called or scrapped. You didn't know what they did the entire year and neither did they bother, but come Durga Puja and the 'hoi-hottogol and haanshi-thatta' that emerged from this group of 'puja friends' was always the loudest. Or so they believed and continue to till today!

Bengalis can never be separated from sport and every Durga Puja did not start with Mahalaya, but sports day that featured events like flat race, lemon and spoon race, throwing the discus etc. And this is where on a balmy Sunday morning, the 'puja friends' would suddenly emerge from different directions. Somebody had grown taller, some broader, but the camaraderie was still the same.

And then from Saptami morning right through Bijoya sammelani, this group of friends hung out together. It still amazes me when I think how this group automatically fell in line for bhog poribeshon, how they knew when the other had to take over at the dhunuchi naach, what exactly was needed to be said to each other's parents so that they would allow them to go puja hopping together and how at bisarjan they combined vision and strength for a fitting farewell to Ma Durga.

These friends grew up, went to college, picked up jobs, some travelled, some settled down and slowly went their own ways. Some went on to do bigger things like find finances for a Durga Puja somewhere, direct a play in another, and some even started pujas in places where there were none.

And then they had children and life came a full circle. The new generation of 'puja friends' arrived - like the elves who help Santa every year; except these were in the service of Ma Durga.

Every year a few get added to this list, a few get subtracted. But you'll never find a year when there are none. And that's my fondest memory of Durga Puja. You too can meet these elves. Sometimes you have to close your eyes, sometimes you have to open them. Sometimes you have to look around, sometimes you have to look within. What a miracle!

3 comments:

Srobona RC said...

oohh....that almost made me feel like its Pujo already! Although, I have to say, after shifting from Assam, I haven't really enjoyed the pujo gatherings as much in the busy city of Kolkata and wherever else I have gone. Somehow, in my small town home, pujo was more of a family affair and every one seemed to be there to meet you. There were no crushing crowd and the anonymity of it. Oh well, I think I will end up seeing the "Bileti" pujo this time in London..no fun!

illusions said...

For us Probashi Bangalees that is what we miss the most in Sarbojonin pujos. My memories Delhi's Old Rajinder Nagar Pujo are the best, it was as close to barir pujo as possible.Then for a shortwhile had some fun and Puja friends in Labony at Salt Lake, Kolkata but thereafter it has been Delhi and the grind, And funnily I have not been able to gel with the Bongo Shommiloni although I have now spent 8 years almost in the same neighbpurhood. Somewhere I am still nostalgic about the old Pujom but I think it's time that I at least check with old Rajinder Nagar Pujom have heard that it has become HUGE! And precisely that is the reason why I have not felt the urge to go back. Small and sincere was always which tugged at my heart strings I just cannot identify with the impersonal Barowari pujo. May be I have missed the train already! Bileti pujo too will be small and sincere so don't shy away from it. Make the most of the weekend, honsetly speaking you will like it much more than the general Kolkata fanfare.

Exploreyourtrip said...

hmmmmmmmmm made me nostalgic.. still trying to catch those golden days when I was small..........